Realization has dawned!
So I've been thinking a lot of about relationships and life. Not unusual for me. I'm constantly examining the way the human body functions and comparing the different scientific ideas about them. Specifically the concepts of creation and evolution.
But this time, I've come to a realization about something that is both incredibly common and also incredibly destructive.
A lot of men deal with the ramifications of it, and some people want to claim that it's a disease, like drug use.
The problem is that it's really not a disease at all.
I'm talking about the reason men get addicted to pornography.
There are a number causes and reasons that men can fall into the trap. And a trap it absolutely is.
Here's the reason: Fantasy.
Think about it this way; in porn videos, women don't say they have a headache, they don't want to spend time away from the guy, they don't complain about things that men see as nonsense. I think that the one word that sums up the reason men get addicted is this: Complaining.
We men don't like a complaining woman.
I recognize that there's a time and place for a complaint to be filed, but an incessant stream of them wears the spirit down. And when the spirit starts to suffer, our output of love suffers. Showing emotions and (especially) being romantic and loving are really hard concepts for most men to grasp. They simply don't come naturally. It can be attested to even in the Bible where Jesus calls men to love their wives. The other side of the coin is respect. Men crave respect as much as women crave love. In a typical porn film, love and respect are completely absent, even though the act of lovemaking is the epitome of the combination of both. Well, I shouldn't say completely absent. There is a small amount of respect on display in the form of subservience. But truthfully, respect is far more than simple supplication. Unfortunately, so many men don't feel respected in their relationships, and so, rather than work on the relationship with an open heart (because remember how hard it is for men to do something unnatural) they turn to the fantasy. There is no animosity, no headaches and no complaining. However there is boundless enthusiasm and desire that can be interpreted to be directed toward himself. There are many kinks and niches in the business of sex, so I'm not diminishing the woman's role in this at all. Just from a male perspective, the fantasy of a woman who thinks that we are sex gods is for many men a strong draw. In real life, there may be good times of agreement and even some times when a man feels like he is indeed godlike, but there are many more times that life simply gets us down. A bad day at work can quickly lead to lost tempers and fighting and the exact opposite of what both men and women truly desire. Deep down all we all really want is for someone to care for us, whether we deserve it or not. We want our world rocked. We want to reach the pinnacle of pleasure and attain the afterglow.
So in closing, here are the takeaways and the way to fix the problems.
1. Men turn to pornography for the fantasy of it all.
2. Pornography creates a false sense of reality regarding what relationships are supposed to be like.
3. Women need to understand that when men grow more distant, the correct response is to show more love and respect him with your actions.
4. Approach the relationship with an open mind and open heart. Leave the strife at the door.
5. If all else fails, offer a bj with enthusiasm. This goes for both partners!
But this time, I've come to a realization about something that is both incredibly common and also incredibly destructive.
A lot of men deal with the ramifications of it, and some people want to claim that it's a disease, like drug use.
The problem is that it's really not a disease at all.
I'm talking about the reason men get addicted to pornography.
There are a number causes and reasons that men can fall into the trap. And a trap it absolutely is.
Here's the reason: Fantasy.
Think about it this way; in porn videos, women don't say they have a headache, they don't want to spend time away from the guy, they don't complain about things that men see as nonsense. I think that the one word that sums up the reason men get addicted is this: Complaining.
We men don't like a complaining woman.
I recognize that there's a time and place for a complaint to be filed, but an incessant stream of them wears the spirit down. And when the spirit starts to suffer, our output of love suffers. Showing emotions and (especially) being romantic and loving are really hard concepts for most men to grasp. They simply don't come naturally. It can be attested to even in the Bible where Jesus calls men to love their wives. The other side of the coin is respect. Men crave respect as much as women crave love. In a typical porn film, love and respect are completely absent, even though the act of lovemaking is the epitome of the combination of both. Well, I shouldn't say completely absent. There is a small amount of respect on display in the form of subservience. But truthfully, respect is far more than simple supplication. Unfortunately, so many men don't feel respected in their relationships, and so, rather than work on the relationship with an open heart (because remember how hard it is for men to do something unnatural) they turn to the fantasy. There is no animosity, no headaches and no complaining. However there is boundless enthusiasm and desire that can be interpreted to be directed toward himself. There are many kinks and niches in the business of sex, so I'm not diminishing the woman's role in this at all. Just from a male perspective, the fantasy of a woman who thinks that we are sex gods is for many men a strong draw. In real life, there may be good times of agreement and even some times when a man feels like he is indeed godlike, but there are many more times that life simply gets us down. A bad day at work can quickly lead to lost tempers and fighting and the exact opposite of what both men and women truly desire. Deep down all we all really want is for someone to care for us, whether we deserve it or not. We want our world rocked. We want to reach the pinnacle of pleasure and attain the afterglow.
So in closing, here are the takeaways and the way to fix the problems.
1. Men turn to pornography for the fantasy of it all.
2. Pornography creates a false sense of reality regarding what relationships are supposed to be like.
3. Women need to understand that when men grow more distant, the correct response is to show more love and respect him with your actions.
4. Approach the relationship with an open mind and open heart. Leave the strife at the door.
5. If all else fails, offer a bj with enthusiasm. This goes for both partners!
Addiction to pornography is no laughing matter. It is destructive and until a resolution is achieved, increases conflict. Nobody truly wants conflict.
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